HOW TO REDUCE ANXIETY
As unrealistic as that request sounds, the general idea of freeing oneself from anxiety makes complete sense: Anxiety is useless, and it would be great to live without it.
Anxiety is a nuisance. It keeps focusing one’s attention on what possibly can go wrong, instead of on what works towards succeeding. It makes it difficult to sleep properly and may set the stage for bad dreams. It keeps body and mind in an overdrive mode for no justified reason and depletes energy and other resources fast. It takes away from one’s image and feeling of attractiveness. It feels unpleasant. It accelerates aging. Try as I might, I cannot come up with even one benefit of it. What purpose does it serve?
No surprise I hear so often from my clients: ‘just remove it out of my mind, get rid of IT,’ as if it was some substance that can be thrown into the trash and never looked at again.
Anxiety does not exist, other than as a result of worrisome thinking. Such thinking triggers a physiological response in the body expressing the state of anxiety: difficulties thinking clearly, maybe hands shaking, feelings of weakness, agitation, sweating, maybe one’s face going red, not feeling in full control of one’s behavior, and another malfunctioning.
There are better ways of tackling problems than worrying and staying in a state of anxiety. Once anxiety loosens its grip, a whole new world of possibilities opens up.
Although signs of anxiety seem similar while looking at different people suffering from it, the reasons why they worry are different, and it is best to tailor a solution to address the challenge.
Just like some computer software for solving particular problems works better and other not that good, same goes for our habitual thinking styles (yes, bad habits can penetrate even our ways of thinking!). And just like sometimes a minute change in a software programming can make a big difference, a conscious adjustment in the way we approach some challenges may result in freeing oneself from anxiety.
Also, learning how to relax on call is always a powerful tool to disarm anxiety bomb ready to explode – and regain control of a situation.