One of the main characteristics of a state of fear is that one’s thinking faculties diminish, and so is an ability to understand the whole scope of the situation at hand and problem solving, resulting in compromised decision making.
Nobody is born fearless. No matter how challenging a fear may feel, the truth is that each of us has overcome so many of them already! It is possible, it is doable, and in most cases, it is a good choice to free yourself from fear.
Fear is a response generated by an evolutionarily older part of our brain which can only initiate a few reactions to perceived danger: fight, flight or stupor. The biggest problem with these responses is that they are executed impulsively and not strategically. In consequence, a frightened person who reacts with “fight” reaction might mindlessly throw him/herself to attack the source of danger. This kind of fight would be very different than let’s say Bruce Lee’s aware fight mode. I an case a flight reaction took over, the person would run away not knowing where they are running, which turns a positive outcome into a lottery. If the individual would freeze, it might turn out to be a winning reaction, but more often it is not.
It’s worth noticing, that fear reactions may generate lots of energy very fast, so someone may run at speeds they never suspected they could, or to have an incredibly strong punch. Still, there is too much left to chance.
The core process of overcoming fear is to switch from a fear reaction to that of standing – equipped with proper skills – to a comprehensible challenge. It is a learning process; and –as is the case with all our learning – we never can expect that we have learned it all.
Courage is an attitude of overcoming fear, and not freedom from all fear. The expectation of not experiencing any fear at all is unrealistic. However, seeking freedom from yet another fear is wise, practical and often, surprisingly simple…